Children find it easier to make friends and get along with others when they are considerate of others' needs. This can involve life skills such as:
• Looking at and listening when someone is speaking to them, such as a friend telling a story.
• Taking turns in games and activities.
• Asking what others might like to do rather than assuming that other children will always want to follow.
• Waiting and not interrupting while a parent or teacher is busy or speaking to someone , such as on the telephone.
• Thinking about other people's feelings.
• Helping others.
• Being friendly, such as welcoming a new child in the class.
• Doing simple chores without having to be asked, like putting dirty clothes in a clothes basket.
▲ Model Being Considerate
Encourage your child to be considerate to others by modeling these life skills yourself.
▲ Avoid Being Critical of Others
When children hear their parents being very critical, or making sarcastic or negative comments about others, children can learn that it is okay/acceptable to make hurtful comments. Avoid being critical and negative.
▲ Point Out Others' Good Points
In daily conversations, point out other people's good points and achievements so that your child gets used to seeing good in others. For example, when someone shows an act of kindness or does something community-minded, point it out during family conversations -- Mr Lim down the road is such a kind person. He was helping Mrs Ambrose with her car this morning, even though he was on his way to work.
▲ Provide Opportunities To Show Caring
Providing children with opportunities to show caring can involve letting children help others or take responsibility for a task like feeding a pet. Many children love to be involved in helping in this way. They are curious of new things.
▲ Acknowledge Kindness
Praise or thank your child when they try to be helpful or show an awareness of other people's feelings. For example, if you are feeling unwell and your child brings you something to eat or drink, acknowledge their effort and thank them for their kindness -- Radha, that is very kind of you to bring me the juice. Thank you so much.
Tell your child how their kindness makes you feel -- I feel very special when you think of me.
When children hear how happy others feel when shown as an act of kindness, they learn that being considerate and helpful can help them build relationships with others. this can also help children to feel good about themselves.
▲ Ask Your Child How Events Affect Them or Another Person
To encourage children to consider the feelings of others and the impact of both pleasant and unpleasant events on themselves and others, ask children to express their views -- I wonder how Damian's feeling right now. How do you think you would feel if that happened to you?
▲Encourage Your Child To Make Amends
Children lean through the consequences of their actions. When a child does something that deliberately hurts someone, describe what they have done wrong and get them to apologise or make amends -- Tanya, I want to talk to you about what happened then. When you told Abby to go away, she looked very upset. I want you to go to her and say that your are sorry and let her join the game. Thank you for being sincere.
▲ Provide Back-up Consequences for Inconsiderate or Hurtful Behavior
If the problem occurs again on the same day, back up with either a logical consequence (e.g. remove the game), quiet time or time-out. Time to exercise mindfulness with the child in the corner -- Child, I see that you have repeated the behavior which is hurtful to your cousin. Now, I want you to go to your Mindfulness Corner and take 3 good breaths exercise. I shall join you after you are done.
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• Looking at and listening when someone is speaking to them, such as a friend telling a story.
• Taking turns in games and activities.
• Asking what others might like to do rather than assuming that other children will always want to follow.
• Waiting and not interrupting while a parent or teacher is busy or speaking to someone , such as on the telephone.
• Thinking about other people's feelings.
• Helping others.
• Being friendly, such as welcoming a new child in the class.
• Doing simple chores without having to be asked, like putting dirty clothes in a clothes basket.
▲ Model Being Considerate
Encourage your child to be considerate to others by modeling these life skills yourself.
▲ Avoid Being Critical of Others
When children hear their parents being very critical, or making sarcastic or negative comments about others, children can learn that it is okay/acceptable to make hurtful comments. Avoid being critical and negative.
▲ Point Out Others' Good Points
In daily conversations, point out other people's good points and achievements so that your child gets used to seeing good in others. For example, when someone shows an act of kindness or does something community-minded, point it out during family conversations -- Mr Lim down the road is such a kind person. He was helping Mrs Ambrose with her car this morning, even though he was on his way to work.
▲ Provide Opportunities To Show Caring
Providing children with opportunities to show caring can involve letting children help others or take responsibility for a task like feeding a pet. Many children love to be involved in helping in this way. They are curious of new things.
▲ Acknowledge Kindness
Praise or thank your child when they try to be helpful or show an awareness of other people's feelings. For example, if you are feeling unwell and your child brings you something to eat or drink, acknowledge their effort and thank them for their kindness -- Radha, that is very kind of you to bring me the juice. Thank you so much.
Tell your child how their kindness makes you feel -- I feel very special when you think of me.
When children hear how happy others feel when shown as an act of kindness, they learn that being considerate and helpful can help them build relationships with others. this can also help children to feel good about themselves.
▲ Ask Your Child How Events Affect Them or Another Person
To encourage children to consider the feelings of others and the impact of both pleasant and unpleasant events on themselves and others, ask children to express their views -- I wonder how Damian's feeling right now. How do you think you would feel if that happened to you?
▲Encourage Your Child To Make Amends
Children lean through the consequences of their actions. When a child does something that deliberately hurts someone, describe what they have done wrong and get them to apologise or make amends -- Tanya, I want to talk to you about what happened then. When you told Abby to go away, she looked very upset. I want you to go to her and say that your are sorry and let her join the game. Thank you for being sincere.
▲ Provide Back-up Consequences for Inconsiderate or Hurtful Behavior
If the problem occurs again on the same day, back up with either a logical consequence (e.g. remove the game), quiet time or time-out. Time to exercise mindfulness with the child in the corner -- Child, I see that you have repeated the behavior which is hurtful to your cousin. Now, I want you to go to your Mindfulness Corner and take 3 good breaths exercise. I shall join you after you are done.
HAVING GOOD COMMUNICATION AND SOCIAL SKILLS (CLICK HERE)
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