Sunday, November 12, 2017

Living In The Now

Present, Yesterday and Tomorrow

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, that is why it is called the present. What a wonderful saying to help us with self awareness and living in the Now!

Wise Words

Wise Words

A little nonsense now and then, is relished by the wisest men.

Don't gobblefunk around with words.

It's impossible to make your eyes twinkle if you aren't feeling twinkly yourself.

So please, oh please, we beg, we pray
Go throw your TV set away
And in its place you can install

A lovely bookshelf on the wall…

Good Thoughts

Good Thoughts

A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.



Quotes from Roald Dahl's Charlie and the Great Glass Elevator and The Minpins

A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.

And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don't believe in magic will never find it. 


The poem's copyright A 962402 was registered by Ehrmann on January 3, 1927, as "Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, etc. Card.", and was renewed by his widow, Bertha K. Ehrmann, in 1954.
In 1942, Max Ehrmann gave permission to Dr Charles Moore, a U.S. Army psychiatrist, to distribute copies of the poem to soldiers. Three years after Ehrmann's death, his widow included Desiderata in The Poems of Max Ehrmann, published in 1948 by the Bruce Humphries Publishing Company, of Boston. In 1967, Robert L. Bell, acquired the publishing rights from Bruce Humphries Publishing Company, where he was president, and then bought the copyright from Richard Wright, nephew and heir to the Ehrmann works.
In August 1971, the poem was published in Success Unlimited magazine, without permission from Robert L. Bell. In a 1976 lawsuit against the magazine's publisher, Combined Registry Co., the court ruled (and subsequently the 7th Circuit Court of Appeals upheld) that copyright had been forfeited because the poem had been authorized for publication without a copyright notice in the 1940s – and that the poem was therefore in the public domain.

Desiderata History
Desiderata was written in 1927 by Max Ehrmann, a poet and lawyer from Terre Haute, Indiana. The word desiderata means “things that are desired.” Ehrmann said he wrote it for himself, “because it counsels those virtues I felt most in need of.” These virtues have been valued by countless others as Desiderata rose in popularity in the late ’60s and early ’70s. It is making a strong comeback today, as parents and grandparents are passing along this wisdom to their loved ones.

The Desiderata history is an interesting one, as there has been confusion surrounding the author of this prose poem. It is often mistaken that it was written by an anonymous author in 1692 and was found in Old Saint Paul’s Church.

The Rev. Frederick Ward Kates was rector of the church from 1956 to 1961. During that time he used the words of Desiderata in a mimeographed booklet he gave to his parishioners to read. On the cover of the booklet was the church’s name and year it was founded: “Old Saint Paul’s Church, Baltimore, 1692.” The two became inextricably linked and even today it is hard to tear them apart.

When Adlai Stevenson died in 1965, a copy of Desiderata was found by his bedside. He was preparing to use it in personal Christmas cards that year. He attributed the poem to an unknown 17th century author.

A Baltimore authority on early English literature said, “This work, as it reads now, was not written in 1692. The words are not those of the seventeenth century, nor is the composition.” 4

Max Ehrmann copyrighted his work in 1927. He died in 1945. Three years later his widow included Desiderata in The Poems of Max Ehrmann, published in 1948 by the Bruce Humphries Publishing Company of Boston. In 1967 Robert L. Bell acquired the publishing rights from the Bruce Humphries Publishing Company, where Bell was president, and then bought the copyright from Richard Wright, nephew and heir to the Ehrmann works. 4

When Robert L. Bell tried to protect his copyright of Desiderata against the “Combined Registry Company in its unauthorized publication of Desiderata in its August, 1971 issue of Success Unlimited magazine,” a U.S. Court of Appeals held that Max Ehrmann had previously forfeited and abandoned his own copyright. But through other court hearings Mr. Bell successfully retained copyright and in a 1976 court ruling, Les Crane, who had recorded a spoken word version, had to pay royalties to Mr. Bell.

Perhaps in an attempt to avoid copyright issues, sometimes the words have been changed. One of these deviations is from the original words “Be cheerful” to “Be careful.” While this change might not be in the spirit of Ehrmann’s writings, the true ending in both of these versions, “Strive to be happy,” is.

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Desiderata by Max Ehrmann.


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Attachment: most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for, and attachment to things (or people) that we misapprehend as enduring entities. 

Wednesday, October 25, 2017

Top 10 Ways of Showing Appreciation to Family Members

••From Food to Favors: Ways to Say Thank You for Family Members Appreciation.

You can tell your family members and relatives how much you value them and their contribution any day of the year. Trust me. No occasion is necessary. In fact, small surprises and tokens of your appreciation spread throughout the year help the people in your family life feel valued by you all year long.
Looking for ideas about how to praise and thank family and relatives? The opportunities are endless and limited only by your imagination.

You can thank family in these 40 different ways in your homeplace. You can use these 20 ways to tell employees that you care to promote their happiness at work.
You can also get in touch with what you appreciate from your family at work. While every family member has different needs for appreciation, your own needs can serve you well as a starting point.

10 Great Ways to Express Your Appreciation to Family at Home

Here are ten ways to show your appreciation to family and relatives. Why don't you go ahead and make their day?
  • Praise something your family has done well. Identify the specific actions that you found admirable. This praise feels sincere since you took the time to spell out details—not just, "You did a good job." You also emphasize the actions that you'd like to see the family do more often and everybody benefits when people experience clear direction.
  • Say thank you. Show your appreciation for their hard work and contributions. And, don't forget to say please often as well. Social niceties do belong at home. A more gracious, polite, civilized home is appreciated by all.
  • Ask your family members about their important interests. Questions and acknowledgments about their family, their hobby, their weekend or a special event they attended are always welcome. Your genuine interest—as opposed to being nosey—causes people to feel valued and cared about. Demonstrate this interest regularly by asking questions such as, "How did Johnny's tournament turn out this weekend?"
 Offer family members flexible scheduling for the holidays, if feasible. If work coverage is critical, post a calendar so people can balance their time off with that of their families. (Note that a flexible work schedule is a benefit that family desire all of the time.)
  • Present a personalized gift. Know your family’s interests well enough to present a small gift occasionally. An appreciated gift and the gesture of providing it will light up your family’s day. A greeting card serves the same purpose. You can give a card for no reason at all, to celebrate a special day such as a birthday, or to offer sympathy when a family member is ill or experiences a friend's death.  
  • If you can afford to, give staff members money. End of the year bonuses, attendance bonuses, quarterly bonuses and gift certificates say "thank you" quite nicely. TechSmith staff receive a percentage of their annual salary for their end of year bonus.
  • Almost everyone appreciates food. Take family or family's friend(s) to lunch for a birthday, a special occasion or for no reason at all. Let your family pick the restaurant. Or, order pizza or lunch from a caterer or a store that delivers. Schedule a brunch for a member that has met his/her current goals and over-delivers on its promised timeline.

  • Create a fun tradition for a seasonal holiday. ReCellular employees draw names for their Secret Santa gift exchange. Alison Doyle, a Job Searching expert, used to work in Career Services at Skidmore College where they did a gift grab at their annual holiday party.

    LuAnn Johnson, who works in Human Resources at the Schaller Anderson Mercy Care Plan says, "We celebrate Treat Tuesday, every Tuesday between Thanksgiving and Christmas. We match up departments or people who don't normally work together as a unit and assign a day to provide gooey, healthy or scrumptious treats for the other groups. It's a great mixer, an opportunity to show off our culinary skills and a morale builder—to say nothing of the sugar high."
Treat family members. Bring in bagels, doughnuts or another treat for family and relatives. Offerings such as cookies or cupcakes, particularly anything that you've baked personally, are a huge hit. (Have you tried baking cupcakes in ice cream cones? People love them.) Another hit? Bring chocolate—chocolate anything.
  • Finally, provide opportunity. People want chances for training and cross-training. They want to participate on a special committee where their talents are noticed. They like to attend professional association meetings and represent your family at civic and philanthropic events. Do you currently have only yourself, as head of the family, attending these events? Spread the wealth of opportunity to all family members. They will genuinely appreciate the opportunities.
These are my top ten ways to show appreciation to family members. Stretch your imagination. There are hundreds of other family and members appreciation ideas just waiting for you to find them.
They'll bring you success in family motivation, family recognition and in building a positive, productive home.
Family appreciation is never out-of-place. In fact, in many homes, it's often a scarce commodity. Make your home the exception. Use every opportunity to demonstrate your gratitude and appreciation to family members.