Rebecca Eanes, a bestselling author on parenting, urges all parents to first accept the fact that our children are human. As such, they will have their good and bad days, just like we adults do. And their emotions will oscillate, just like ours will.
Yet strangely enough, many parents hold their children to very high standards of perfection. "My kids are too emotional," they say. "They can't rein in their emotions." And the list goes on.
We need to allow our children to be human and feel emotion; it's part of their humanity. Suppressing emotions of any kind is unhealthy. It's like a powder keg; bottling emotions up could result in a major flare-up one day. then the fallout will be much less manageable.
As parents, we need to EMPATHISE when our kids-humans experience bad days. rather that treat their outbursts as a mental deficiency or breach of discipline, we should adopt an understanding approach.
Questions like " Do you want to talk about it?" or "Is there something I can do to help you?" would be more effective and humane in such situations. Accusatory statements like " You have no right to lose your temper" will only add fuel to the fire.
Even in the event that you are rebuffed despite your best intentions, understand that children may have difficulty managing their emotions. Be prepared for them to say things and words that are emotionally hurtful. let the child let them out . Resist the temptation to respond immediately, especially with an angry retort.
Give them time to simmer and subsequently cool off. This could lead to composure and self-reflection. Only then will fruitful conversations and dialogue ensue.
Don't Compare (click here)
Yet strangely enough, many parents hold their children to very high standards of perfection. "My kids are too emotional," they say. "They can't rein in their emotions." And the list goes on.
We need to allow our children to be human and feel emotion; it's part of their humanity. Suppressing emotions of any kind is unhealthy. It's like a powder keg; bottling emotions up could result in a major flare-up one day. then the fallout will be much less manageable.
As parents, we need to EMPATHISE when our kids-humans experience bad days. rather that treat their outbursts as a mental deficiency or breach of discipline, we should adopt an understanding approach.
Questions like " Do you want to talk about it?" or "Is there something I can do to help you?" would be more effective and humane in such situations. Accusatory statements like " You have no right to lose your temper" will only add fuel to the fire.
Even in the event that you are rebuffed despite your best intentions, understand that children may have difficulty managing their emotions. Be prepared for them to say things and words that are emotionally hurtful. let the child let them out . Resist the temptation to respond immediately, especially with an angry retort.
Give them time to simmer and subsequently cool off. This could lead to composure and self-reflection. Only then will fruitful conversations and dialogue ensue.
Don't Compare (click here)
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