What actually matters at the end of life?
My aunt died two weeks ago, 2 days before her death, me and my brother visited her in the hospital. We were only allowed 2 minutes with her. She was very sick. I can vividly remember walking up to her bed, knowing that those might be the last couple of minutes I will get to spend with her. When we reached her, she was asleep. We gently woke her up. There was a tube going down her throat as she wasn’t able to breathe without it. We knew she wouldn’t be able to talk, still we gently woke her up.
I couldn’t say anything, I just stared at her thinking this might be the last time that I will ever see her. Suddenly, I heard my elder brother saying: “Hello aunt, you should know that we love you so much. You’re our favorite aunt. We always remember you being there for us and we remember how well you treated us. We think very highly of you. We love you. ”
Although my aunt couldn’t talk, her face lit up. Her eyes started tearing up. It seemed that she really appreciated what my brother told her.
So it seems that for people who are still alive, what matters is the how they remember you. Were you a good person to them? Did you show them that you loved them? My brother only had 120 seconds with her and he never mentioned how successful she was or how much money she had. It was all about the connection that she had with us.
Well what about her? Well, I was pretty sure when I saw her face lit up that she really appreciated what he said. It’s as if she felt somehow that all her interactions with us throughout her life were summarized in what my brother said.
But, two weeks later? What matters now? I can tell you again, from our side, what matters is not how successful she was or how much money she had. My answer will still remain the same, what matters is how we remember her and the connection that we had.
But, what about her? What matters now? Well… that depends. Where is she? Is there an afterlife? Or she just cease to exist? Well if it’s the latter then it doesn’t matter much. But, if it’s the former then it will depend on what will happen after we die. Nothing can answer this question except for religion. If we really care about ourselves and we have any kind of logic we have to spend a lot of time exploring every religion. We should read the 1).Christian Bible
2). Muslim Quran
3). Sikh Adi Granth
4). Jewish Torah
5). Buddhist Dhammapada . Each and every book there is about religion. And I’m not talking about this from a religious perspective as much as from a logical perspective.
If we’re gonna spend eternity in a place that we’re not sure what it is. And we only have some years to prepare for it. I believe it’s logical to spend much of this time preparing for the longer period.
To summarize, in the last moments of our lives, what’s gonna matter is how people will remember us. But, after we die, what’s gonna matter is what kind of afterlife there is and if we prepared for it or not. So we should really work on getting closer to people and showing them that we love them. And if we really care about ourselves we should study religions more to answer the question that we will never know the answer of, except after we die and experience it ourselves, what will happen to us after we die?
*在生命的尽头真正重要的是什么？*
我的阿姨两周前去世了，在她去世前两天，我和我的哥哥去医院看望了她。 我们只被允许和她在一起 2 分钟。 她病得很重。 我清楚地记得走到她的床边，知道那可能是我与她共度的最后几分钟。 当我们到达她身边时，她已经睡着了。 我们轻轻叫醒她。 有一根管子穿过她的喉咙，因为没有它她就无法呼吸。 我们知道她不会说话，但我们还是轻轻地叫醒了她。
我什么也说不出来，我只是盯着她看，心想这可能是我最后一次见到她了。 突然，我听到哥哥说：“你好阿姨，你应该知道我们很爱你。 你是我们最喜欢的阿姨。 我们永远记得你在我们身边，我们记得你对我们有多好。 我们非常看重你。 我们爱你。 ”
阿姨虽然不能说话，但脸上却亮了起来。 她的眼睛开始流泪。 看来，她真的很感激哥哥对她说的话。
所以看来，对于还活着的人来说，重要的是他们如何记住你。 你对他们来说是个好人吗？ 你有没有向他们表明你爱他们？ 我哥哥和她在一起的时间只有 120 秒，他从来没有提到她有多成功或者她有多少钱。 这完全是关于她与我们之间的联系。
那她呢？ 好吧，当我看到她的脸发光时，我很确定她真的很感激他说的话。 就好像她以某种方式觉得，她一生中与我们的所有互动都概括在我哥哥的话中。
但是，两周后？ 现在重要的是什么？ 我可以再一次告诉你，从我们这边来说，重要的不是她有多成功，也不是她有多少钱。 我的回答还是一样，重要的是我们如何记住她以及我们之间的联系。
可是，她呢？ 现在重要的是什么？ 好吧……这取决于。 她在哪？ 有来世吗？ 或者她只是抓住了0存在？ 好吧，如果是后者，那也没关系。 但是，如果是前者，那将取决于我们死后会发生什么。 除了宗教，没有什么能回答这个问题。 如果我们真的关心自己并且我们有任何逻辑，我们就必须花很多时间探索每一种宗教。 我们应该阅读妥拉、圣经和古兰经。 基督教圣经
2). 穆斯林古兰经
3). 锡克阿迪格兰斯
4). 犹太妥拉
5). 佛教法句经 6). 印度吠陀。 那里的每一本书都与宗教有关。 我不是从宗教的角度，而是从逻辑的角度来谈论这个。
如果我们要在一个我们不确定它是什么的地方度过永恒。 我们只有几年的时间来为此做准备。 我认为花大部分时间为更长的时间做准备是合乎逻辑的。
总而言之，在我们生命的最后时刻，重要的是人们会如何记住我们。 但是，在我们死后，重要的是来世是什么样的，以及我们是否为此做好了准备。 因此，我们真的应该努力与人们更亲近，并向他们表明我们爱他们。 如果我们真的关心自己，我们应该更多地研究宗教来回答我们永远不知道答案的问题，除非我们死后亲身体验，我们死后会发生什么？
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