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PART 3: MUHAMMAD OR JESUS? TWO DIFFERENT FOUNDERS 

Chapter 9 "The Council of Nicaea" 

1. What did Christianity experience before and after the Edict of Milan in AD 313? 

2. At the Council of Nicaea in AD 325 what was the controversial view of Arius? 

3. What is the popular Muslim misconception about the Council of Nicaea and Jesus? 

4. What is the "fundamental fact" that separates Muhammad from Jesus in the understanding of the Islam and Christianity? 

Chapter 10 "Comparing the Messenger and the Messiah" 

1. When Nabeel hears Muslims say, "We respect Jesus, but you Christians do not respect Muhammad," what are those Muslims really saying? 

2. What did you learn about God coming to be among us from Nabeel's teachings from the first chapter of the Gospel of John? 

3.What is the "hypostatic union" and how does it support the Christian view of Jesus the Messiah? 

4. What is the role of the Prophet Muhammad and the hadith in the life of the Muslim believer? 

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Chapter 11 "Questioning the God-Man" 

1. How would you answer this question from Sahar, a Muslim woman, "How can you believe Jesus is God if he was born through the birth canal of a woman and that he had to use the bathroom? Aren't these things below God?" 

2. How do you answer a Muslim who asks, "If Jesus is God, and God died, who was ruling the universe?" 

3. Why is God not unjust in punishing Jesus for others' sins? 

4. Why does Nabeel ask, "Sahar, let's imagine that you are on your way to a very important ceremony and are dressed in your finest clothes. You are about to arrive just on time, but then you see your daughter drowning in a pool of mud. What would you do? Let her drown and arrive looking dignified, or rescue her but arrive at the ceremony covered in mud?" 

Chapter 12 "Libya's Best Friend" 

1. What is Ronnie Smith's story and how does it relate to a discussion of Islam and Christianity? 

2. What motivated Ronnie Smith and his family to move to Libya? 

3. How was Jesus' teaching and life an Example for Ronnie Smith? 

4. What do feel reading Ronnie's wife ending sentence in a letter to her husband's killers, "Ronnie loved you because God loves you. Ronnie loved you because God loved him-not because Ronnie was so great, but because God is so great"?

SESSION 4 

PART 4: THE QURAN OR THE BIBLE? TWO DIFFERENT SCRIPTURES 

Chapter 13 "The Burning of Scripture" 

1. In 2011 what senseless violence happened in Mazar-e-Sharif, considered a safe city in Afghanistan, and what caused the deaths of 12 innocent people? 

2. In 2009 what happened at Bagram Airfield in Afghanistan when "the US government officially announced that the Bibles were trash,and accordingly they were burned"? 

3. Rather than caricatures of Muslims and Christians regarding their holy books, what compelling reality does Nabeel offer regarding the two faiths and their holy books? 

Chapter 14 "Comparing the Quran and the Bible" (Because this is a lengthy, significant chapter, more questions will be asked.) 

1. What must Westerners know about Islam that makes the thought of burning a copy of the Quran a highly inflammatory insult to Muslims? 

2. While Christians do not suggest or like the idea of burning Bibles, what is one reason why Christians do not riot and murder when the Bible is treated as trash by US military officials? 

3. How would your view of the Quran be changed if you believed it to be"the closest thing on earth to the incarnation of Allah"? 

4. How would you describe the differences in the composition of the Quran and the Bible?

5. How would you summarize the Christian view of the Bible? 

6. Is the Islamic practice of "abrogation"? 

7. When Nabeel discusses "the sufficiency of Scripture," how does this apply to the Quran? What guides most Islamic practices? 

8. How would you contrast the Muslim and Christian views regarding "why" they believe and"what" they believe 

Chapter 15 "Questioning Texts" 

1. What are the stories of Ahmed Deedat and Zakir Naik and what is their main argument for the superiority of the Quran over the Bible? 

2. Why is this observation important in the Muslim/Christian debate: "The Quran is written in one uniform style, whereas the Bible is written in many genres"? 

List at least four contradictions within the Quran (see page 120). 

3. How does Nabeel, using 1 Peter as an example, answer the Muslim charge about "wholesale omissions or insertions of New Testament teachings, [andl intentional alterations by ruling powers"? 

Chapter 16 "The First Burning of the Quran" 

1. What did Caliph Uthman do and why did he do it? What does this reveal about human control over the Quran in human history? 

2. What is Nabeel's personal story about the impact of the Quran and the impact of the Bible on him at a significant moment in his life? 

SESSION 5 

PART 5: JIHAD OR THE CRUSADES? TWO DIFFERENT HOLY WARS 

Chapter 17 "The First Crusade" 

1. How did President Bill Clinton advance the growing popular understanding of the (first) Christian Crusades to take back the holy land? 

2.Why was the 9/11 attack in 2001 a very difficult experience for patriotic American Muslims? 

3. Contrary to the popular view, how could Crusade scholar Thomas Madden write, "The crusades were in every way a defensive war"? 

4. Why does Nabeel confess, "Considering the historical realities, the common Muslim perspective of the Crusades-the perspective I inherited-is a modern invention"? 

Chapter 18 "Comparing the Traditions of the Founders" 

1. What did you think when Nabeel asked a Muslim friend at a conference in Washington, D. C. on July 4,2009,"So if we were in a Muslim country right now, would you kill me?" and the friend responded,"Yes, I would kill you right now. It is the command of the Prophet (SAW)"? 

2. Why does Nabeel write, "But in order to follow a peaceful Islam, one has to ignore or reject vast swaths of traditions from Muhammad's life as well as virtually the entire history of Islamic jurisprudence"? 

3.What was one of Augustine's contributions to the Christian understanding of war?

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"Because I looked for a book that held both the science and the faith together — and when I could not find it, I wrote it."

You are not broken. But you are carrying something heavy.

 Maybe it has a name — trauma, abuse, loss, betrayal. Maybe it is harder to define than that: a feeling you have lived with for so long that it has started to feel like who you are. Either way, you picked up this book because something in you is still looking for a way through.

Journey to Healing is a guide for anyone — man or woman — who is ready to stop surviving and start recovering. It does not offer quick fixes or empty encouragement. Instead, it gives you something rarer: honest answers, practical tools, and the deep reassurance that the God who made you has not abandoned you in the hardest chapters of your story.

 

Across eight chapters, you will discover:

 

• Why trauma is not a weakness — and why your responses to it have always made sense

• How the patterns that once protected you may now be keeping you stuck

• Practical, evidence-based tools for calming your nervous system and rebuilding safety

• How to move through grief and anger without being consumed by them

• What the Holy Spirit's specific role is in healing — and how to access it

• How to rebuild a true identity after trauma has tried to define you

• What reconnection, trust, and genuine living look like after deep pain

• How to sustain healing for the long journey — and what "living undefeated" actually means

 

This book holds together what is too often separated: the best of modern trauma research, and the deep, tested faith that knows God heals. It is written for the person who is tired of being told to "just pray" on one side, and who knows that therapy alone cannot reach the deepest places on the other.

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4. What intrinsic reason separates Allah from Yahweh regarding relationships with people? 

Chapter 7 "Questioning Complexity" 

1. What does quantum physics have to do with the differences between Islam's view of one God and the Christian view of one God? 

2. What is the very significant theological problem with Allah being "relational," that is, how can Allah be called Allah the Merciful or Allah the Gracious? Why is this not a problem for the Trinity? 

3. What is the shema? How can Christians account for the shema of Deuteronomy 6:4 and still believe in the Trinity? 

4. What do some notable Jewish scholars teach about Jewish views of God in Jesus' day? 

The Shema is the central Jewish declaration of faith, derived from the first word of Deuteronomy 6:4 ("Hear, O Israel").  The verse states: "Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one." This passage asserts the monotheistic belief in the uniqueness and singularity of God, establishing Him as the exclusive ruler and object of loyalty for Israel. 

The command to "love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might" follows immediately in verse 5, requiring undivided devotion and obedience.  In Jewish tradition, the Shema is recited daily during morning and evening prayers, often expanded to include Deuteronomy 11:13–21 and Numbers 15:37–41.  It serves as both a pledge of allegiance to God and a foundational instruction to teach these truths diligently to children and integrate them into daily life. 

Chapter 8 "Do Muslims and Christians Worship the Same God?" 

1. How are the views of God in Islam and Christianity "diametrically opposed"? What texts in the Quran support your answer? 

2. How does the Islamic model of theism promote service to others, yet the Christian model of theism "goes further still" to intrinsically require service to others? 

3. Nabeel writes, "People ought to be selflessly loving because it is who we are." How does he support that truth? 

4. Why is belief in the Trinity not just a"theological curiosity"? 

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 carrying unnecessary burdens and start walking in divine alignment. What happens next is up to you. God has already spoken. He has already revealed the next step. He has already confirmed his leading in your life. 

The question now is, will you walk in it? Many people surrender in a moment, but days later they fall back into old patterns of control, doubt, and hesitation. But you are not going back. You are moving forward. From this day on, surrender will be your new way of living. The Holy Spirit will not just be a part of your life. He will be the One leading every step. Your greatest breakthrough is not coming. It has already begun. The supernatural is now your reality. Miracles will follow you. Divine encounters will surround you. 

Clarity will replace confusion. Peace will replace striving. Fear will be replaced by boldness. God has been waiting for this moment. Now it's your turn to respond. No more hesitation, no more questioning, no more resisting. You have fully surrendered. And now it is time to walk in everything the Holy Spirit has prepared for you. This is the beginning of something greater than you can imagine. Step into it. Walk in it. Live in it. The Holy Spirit has been waiting for you. Now it's time to ... .....

why do Chinese people like that ...see this difference

    In China we often avoid being "complete" or "too full" ,  my Western friends find it extremely hard to understand . For example , when receiving  compliments like "You're amazing." “你太棒了。” (Nǐ tài bàng le) . "You did it perfectly."  “你做得很完美。” ( Nǐ zuò dé hěn wánměi.)  , we Chinese people are likely to respond with "Mei you mei you." “没有没有。”, "Have not, have not, have".  "No no no." “不,不,不。Bù, bù, bù”." Nin guo jiang le." “您过奖了。” "You've overpraised me.".  "You flatter me."

Whereas, my British friends would probably just say ,"Thank you!" "You're very kind." 

You can also see this difference in Western paintings and Chinese paintings. If you look at paintings from  oil paintings from the western Renaissance period or the Baroque periods , The School of Athens by Raphael. You'll find the art canvas is filled.   Las Meninas by Diego Velázquez, You'll find objects, light, people, flowers , the canvas is filled. 

Whereas Chinese paintings you often find empty spaces left intentionally . Art piece , Fishing Village at Sunset by Muxi, Southern Song Dynasty 《渔村夕照图》作者:牧溪(南宋) Yúcūn xìzhào tú” zuòzhě: Mù xī (nánsòng) ; You may see a river, on a single boat and a lot of empty spaces.

Fishing Alone on a Cold River by Ma Yuan, Song Dynasty 《寒江独钓图》作者:马远(宋) Hán jiāng dú diào tú” zuòzhě: Mǎ yuǎn (sòng)

Now these differences point to one simple idea in Chinese philosophy , 

man zhao sun  满招损 ;

qian shou yi 谦受益.

Complacency invites loss; Humility brings benefit.

Completeness triggers declining 满招损 ; and humility invites progress 谦受益.

That's why when you go to a Chinese host's hosting a dinner , the Chinese hosts would say, "Oh sorry sorry the food isn't very good tonight." “哦，不好意思哈， 都是些普通菜。“Ó, bù hǎoyìsi hā, dōu shì xiē pǔtōng cài. "Oh, I'm sorry, these are just ordinary dishes." 

"My reception isn't very nice." “招待不周啊。” “Zhāodài bù zhōu a.” "I apologize for the poor hospitality."

"There are not enough dishes." “没有什么菜哈。” “Méiyǒu shé me cài hā.” "There aren't many dishes."; even when the table is packed with wonderful food 

My English friends often ask me, or they used to ask me , "Friend , why do you keep rejecting compliments?" "Why do you keep saying your reception isn't good enough?" 

That's because we, Chinese people, avoid "excess" . When the moon reaches its full, it starts to wane. When the cup of tea is full, it starts to spill. 

月亮圆满之时，便开始变亏。茶杯盛满之时，便开始溢出。Yuèliàng yuánmǎn zhī shí, biàn kāishǐ biàn kuī. Chábēi shèng mǎn zhī shí, biàn kāishǐ yìchū.

And when power reaches its peak, it starts to decline. 当电力达到峰值后，就开始下降。Dāng diànlì dádào fēngzhí hòu, jiù kāishǐ xiàjiàng.

In Chinese solar terms , there's one called "小满" Xiǎomǎn - Small Fullness. There isn't "Daman" - Big Fullness "大满" Dà mǎn, there isn't something like that but there's "Xiaoman" - Small Fullness. It marks a time when grains are just about to fill but not fully ripe , or fully full yet. 

Water is rising, rainfall increasing. Everything is approaching abundance but not yet reaching its extreme. This is a sort of balance or status that Chinese people pursue. And that's why a cup of Chinese tea is never full .

"What I hold dear in my heart , I would pursue without regret 

“亦余心之所善兮

even if it costs me my life nine times over" 

虽九死其犹未梅

呵壁九歌心 

招瑰三卢地

何处招魂，香草还生三户地；当年呵壁，湘流应识九歌心。

译文这副对联出自长沙屈原祠。意思是：哪里可以召唤回屈原的魂魄，让他那道德崇高的英灵重新出生在（他所忠诚和热爱的）楚国大地之上。

注释招魂：在这里是双关，即指寻找英雄魂魄，也指代屈原的作品《招魂》。香草：代表写作手法，这里借指屈原或具有其品格与才华的人。三户地：指楚国，《史记项羽本纪》云：“楚虽三户，亡秦必楚也。”九歌：屈原的代表作之一，此处代指屈原。

赏析这副屈原祠联在艺术表现上的妙处，是综合了用典、借代、双关、嵌字等多种修辞手法。上联“招魂”一语双关，也指屈原的作品《招魂》。下联除嵌有《九歌》之名外，“呵壁”一词又利用双关和借代，暗藏《 天问》之名。

Where can one summon back the soul of Qu Yuan, so that his noble spirit may be reborn on the land of Chu (the land he was loyal to and loved)?

This couplet comes from the Qu Yuan Temple in Changsha. It means: Where can one summon back the soul of Qu Yuan, so that his virtuous spirit may be reborn on the land of Chu (the land he was loyal to and loved)?

Notes: "Summoning the soul" is a double entendre, referring both to searching for the hero's soul and to Qu Yuan's work, "Summoning the Soul." "Fragrant herbs" represents a writing technique, here used metaphorically to refer to Qu Yuan or someone with his character and talent. "Land of three households" refers to the state of Chu; the *Records of the Grand Historian* states, "Even if Chu has only three households, it will surely be Chu that destroys Qin." "Nine Songs" is one of Qu Yuan's representative works, here referring to Qu Yuan himself.

The artistic merit of this couplet at the Qu Yuan Temple lies in its combination of allusion, metonymy, double entendre, and word embedding. The phrase "summoning the soul" in the first line is a double entendre, also referring to Qu Yuan's work, "Summoning the Soul." In addition to embedding the name of "Nine Songs" in the second line, the phrase "He Bi" also uses pun and metonymy to subtly allude to the name of "Heavenly Questions".

By choosing principle over self-preservation.